Breaking

happyworld - After A Single Mom Won A $188 Million Jackpot, She Found Her Troubles Were Only Just Beginning

Image: WECT News
When North Carolina resident Marie Holmes won $188 million in the Powerball Lottery in 2015, she must have believed that all her troubles were behind her. But, like many others who have won large sums in the past and subsequently found themselves in a worse situation, she wound up becoming a cautionary tale of how money is not necessarily the answer to life’s problems.
In 2015 Marie was a single mother in her mid-20s working two jobs in order to provide for her four children. She was employed by both Walmart and McDonald’s. However, she was forced to quit those jobs when she was given the devastating diagnosis that one of her children was suffering from cerebral palsy.
ADVERTISEMENT
She was living in a trailer, struggling day-to-day and taking care of her children, when the single parent gave her mother Fontella money to buy her a lottery ticket from a local gas station. When the winning numbers were announced, Marie was understandably shocked. She told TV news channel WECT, “I thought I was going to have a heart attack when I saw the ticket and checked it.”
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Marie was given a choice. She could receive her winnings in one of two ways: $188 million paid out in instalments over 30 years, or a smaller lump sum of $127 million (or $88 million, according to some differing reports) paid immediately. She chose the lump sum and became an extremely wealthy woman almost overnight.
There are different schools of thought when it comes to Marie’s decision. Some observers believe that it would be better to take the instalments, as you are paid more manageable amounts over a period of time, which discourages frivolous spending as your resources are limited. The instalments are also contractually guaranteed, delivering a regular income stream upon which you can always rely.
ADVERTISEMENT
However, others believe it is a better option to take the lump sum and then use it wisely, usually with the help of a financial advisor. Theoretically, sound investments and a lack of overly extravagant expenditure could lead to you making more money over a 30-year period than the initial prize amount, due to compound interest.
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
Given how Marie’s life would proceed over the next few years, it’s arguable that she may have been better choosing the instalments option. According to financial advice website The Balance, “when someone wins the lottery and takes a lump sum, it’s tempting to help out family and friends who come knocking”, and this is exactly what happened.
ADVERTISEMENT
The site argues that a lottery winner who is receiving instalments is “less likely to make the impulse mistake of generosity…[he or she] can’t really afford.” Unfortunately for Marie, she was in receipt of the full amount of her win, and many of her spending decisions when it came to family and friends were highly questionable.
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
A few weeks after she received her money, Marie used $3 million to bail her boyfriend, alleged drug dealer Lamarr “Hot Sauce” McDow, out of jail. Then, a few months later in August 2015, she paid $6 million to post his bond. He had broken the rules of his pre-trial release program.
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
Then, on New Year’s Day 2016, she paid $12 million to bail him out again after he was involved in an illegal street race. All in all, Marie paid out an incredible $21 million of her entire lottery win simply dealing with McDow’s run-ins with the law. However, he defended her decisions to the Daily Mail newspaper in a 2016 interview.
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
He said that it was Marie’s desire to “stand by her man” and this meant she had no regrets about spending such a huge amount on him. He continued by saying, “We are a couple, and I am the father of her youngest child. This is what people do for each other.”
ADVERTISEMENT
McDow, who had also been gifted a $15,000 Rolex watch encrusted with diamonds and a pick-up truck by Marie, maintained that, “If I had that money then I would do the same for her. People are just jealous because of how much she won, and people want to see me locked in jail.”
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
Regardless of whether or not Marie was happy to spend her money on McDow, something that can’t be argued is that he was one of the main recipients of her generosity. Her level of financial responsibility can, however, be debated, and McDow’s belief that, “She has the money and she can do what she wants with it” doesn’t stand up to scrutiny for many observers.
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
McDow spoke in his 2016 Daily Mail interview about how Marie had felt burdened by her lottery win. He revealed that she told him, “When money comes, there are more problems.” One such problem was the racism he says the couple endured when they moved to a new five-bedroom property in Shallotte, North Carolina.
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
The house was worth $294,000 and was a million miles away from the small mobile home Marie had lived in before her win. But what should have been a happy experience was the exact opposite, according to McDow. He said, “We were the only black family on the estate, and they did not like it.”
ADVERTISEMENT
He went on to describe an example of the distrust they faced while living there. He lamented, “One neighbor set up a camera to record everything we were doing. If I was driving down the road and going at the speed limit, they would wave at me for going too fast.” This understandably made life there untenable.
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
McDow’s final statement on the matter was that, “They did not want us there. They were prejudiced.” One anonymous female neighbour who gave the Daily Mail a comment didn’t deny that the family was not welcome there. She said, “If they are gone and never come back, many people will be happy.”
ADVERTISEMENT
Perhaps the neighbors weren’t fond of the family living there for reasons of a more criminal nature. The newspaper reported that police went to the house to check an alert from McDow’s GPS ankle monitor, which he had been wearing due to a prior drug arrest. During the visit, the officers apparently smelled cannabis in the house.
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
When they subsequently served a search warrant at the property, which they believed to be housing money made from the selling and distribution of other narcotics, Marie found herself arrested on marijuana possession charges. A gun was also discovered in the master bedroom and it was linked to McDow, meaning he faced a firearms possession charge.
ADVERTISEMENT
Marie’s drug charge eventually went away. However, this was the situation that led to her paying the $6 million bond in an attempt to limit McDow’s time in jail. There can be little doubt that, while Marie herself mightn’t have been conducting illegal activity, she was a wealthy woman surrounding herself with people of a dubious nature.
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Even when Marie tried to do something selfless with her money, though, it still went wrong. She made a verbal promise to the pastor of her local church, Kevin Matthews, to give him $1.5 million to purchase an area of land. He wanted to use this land to open a retreat facility.
ADVERTISEMENT
Instead, in February 2016, Marie found herself on the receiving end of a lawsuit from Pastor Matthews, to the tune of $10 million. He claimed she had gone back on her verbal agreement, and though she had paid him $700,000, he wanted her to be held accountable for the original amount they discussed.
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Pastor Matthews claimed that he had suffered emotional distress and was forced to increase his dosage of antidepressants due to the argument between himself and Marie. He told Centric TV, “I just want her to do what she said she was going to do…I want peace and to do what God told me to do. I really feel like a warrior for Christ.”
ADVERTISEMENT
Matthews believed someone came along and discouraged Marie from donating the entire amount to the church. He believed it may have been her aunt, who had been appointed the chief executive of The Marie Holmes Foundation, an organization formed to pay grants to worthy groups and individuals with ambitious and creative goals.
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
Spending obscene amounts on her boyfriend’s legal bills and becoming embroiled in legal battles with her church weren’t the only trials Marie faced. An appearance on the Oprah Winfrey Network show Iyanla: Fix My Life in October 2016 revealed possible reasons behind Marie’s skewed attitude to money, which may have been born out of a troubled relationship with her mother and what the show’s host described as an overall immaturity.
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
Before Iyanla, a life coach, was able to dig into these factors, though, she first made an interesting observation about Marie’s house within minutes of arriving. While the property was beautiful and sprawling, Iyanla almost immediately noted something that gave her pause: the home had a history as a plantation.
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
“I believe that every location has an energy,” explained Iyanla. “So, it was important for me to help Marie recognize and understand that as a black woman living on a plantation, there was an energy she was dealing with…in addition to what was going on in her personal life.”
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
Iyanla then delved deeply into Marie’s relationship with her mother Fontella, and it yielded some shocking revelations. Firstly, even though Holmes believed the winning lottery numbers had been picked at random, Fontella told her that they weren’t. She had, in fact, carefully picked the numbers based on the birthday and age of her third child, Marie’s brother, who had died.
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
Fontella said that she let her daughter think the numbers were random because, “I just wanted you to better yourself, for the babies.” Unfortunately, Marie’s response was that she would rather have known her mother picked the numbers, due to the pressure the money had put on her. “Then it would be her and not me,” she admitted.
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
Despite this, Marie did then thank her mother for what she did, and Fontella explained that she’d do the exact same thing again if it came to it. On the TV show she stated that, “If I could do it all over again, I’d have still did [sic] it the same way I did it. I want you to better yourself and be the better mom than I was.”
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
Iyanla was able to dig further into the relationship between the two women. Marie revealed that she felt like her siblings were treated with more love and care than she was. She couldn’t understand why Fontella would slap her in the face when disciplining her, as she wouldn’t do that to her other children.
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
Marie poured out her heart and soul by saying, “None of them ever got hit in the face, and it made me feel like there was a problem with the relationship we had, like it wasn’t strong enough.” She added, “I never understood; like, why did I get treated that way?”
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
Fontella responded by saying she regretted those actions and hadn’t ever thought about the effect it would have on her daughter’s mental health. This prompted Iyanla to explain how devastating a slap in the face can be. She said it was, “the ultimate act of humiliation, because your face is how you show up in the world. It’s who you are.”
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
Iyanla continued, “So when someone slaps your face, what they’re saying is, ‘I am degrading you. I am diminishing you. I am humiliating you.’” This issue was undoubtedly something that the mother and daughter needed to work through, as Iyanla claimed it had contributed to Marie being emotionally immature as an adult.
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
This immaturity made Marie someone who needed lots of help and guidance (that she wasn’t getting) in order to deal with her newfound wealth, according to Iyanla. She pointed out the state of the property, which had dirtbikes abandoned around the grounds and a filthy pool, and told Fontella that both she and her daughter needed her to step up.
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
“You the mama. Correct her and direct her, and stand with her and for her,” she proclaimed. “She don’t [sic] have a clue! Your daughter needs you so badly.” Iyanla then identified a deep sorrow at Marie’s core. She told Fontella, “The depth of her sadness is heart-breaking to me as a mother, and some of that sadness is about you.”
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
Iyanla then sat down with Marie herself and told her some uncomfortable home truths. “I see the result of someone who has no concept of what it means to be an adult,” she said, before adding, “Mature individuals do not behave this way, no matter how much or how little money they have.”
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
In an effort to illustrate the true cost of her immature attitude to her money, Iyanla instructed Marie to put bricks in a small red wagon; each brick identifying something she had bought for other people. She then told her to drag the heavy wagon around, with the exercise notionally demonstrating the emotional “weight” of her purchases.
ADVERTISEMENT
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
After analyzing Marie’s situation and behaviour, Iyanla’s ultimate diagnosis was that her problems were not caused by her windfall. She believed the money itself was not to blame and was not what was derailing Marie’s life, but rather that the core issue was “a problem of maturity, of self-respect and of dignity.”
ADVERTISEMENT
Image: YouTube/OWN
“A lot of this doesn’t have anything to do with money,” concluded Iyanla. “It has to do with broken people, with broken hearts, with broken minds…that leads to choices and decisions and consequences.” All in all, she believed that money isn’t a solution to life’s problems, especially if those problems are buried deep within a person’s psyche.

No comments:

Powered by Blogger.